February 26, 2014

5 Considerations to Choosing a Counselor

"Listening Ear" by Vera Kratochvil
Choosing a counselor is an important step to actively treating mental health. They are professionals who provide a listening ear and have expert advice to guide you to better mental health.

The Right Type of Counselor


First, choose a counselor that fits the type of help you need--marriage, addiction, adolescent, etc. Therapists may be general therapists, but most concentrate on specific areas. Specialist therapists have more experience and can better guide you for the specific problem you are facing.

Be Challenged


Second, a counselor should challenge you to improve. Some counselors will merely coddle you to stay in your rut. What good does it do if you keep repeating the same mistake? This doesn't lead to happiness--only complacency and depression. Also, a good counselor understands he or she does not always have the full picture, only your point of view of anything you share.

Respects Your Beliefs


Third, choose a counselor who respects your belief system. The counselor doesn't have to believe as you do in order to help you within your belief system, just respect it. A counselor is wise to challenge unhealthy cultural patterns related to a belief system. For example, in my belief system there is a cultural tendency toward perfectionism, but the actual religion does not endorse beating myself up over mistakes.

Finances


Fourth, consider your finances. It will affect who you can choose or the number of sessions. If you are limited to a certain counselor, apply what you can. Some organizations and churches offer free counseling or help pay for sessions. Many counselors consider payment plans or reduce rates if you pay upfront. If you can't afford that, I suggest free groups to attend, such as Recovery Inc or NAMI. Create a support network of family and friends. Mental Health Matters lists other ideas for resources in this article.

Use Spiritual Guidance


Heavenly Father wants help you through the challenges of life. He has given us others, such as counselors, to help us along the way. Pray for his guidance as you choose a counselor who best fits your needs. After all, God is the wisest counselor of all. His Son has experienced our suffering and can ease our burdens. We are not alone.

(See Elder Jeffrey R. Holland's talk for more about religion and mental illness.)


Is there any other considerations to choosing a counselor that you might add?